I remember that when he tried to subtly tell the rest of the Avengers about it, he said "Sometimes he gets physical." The Avengers laughed and said they knew, but they thought he was talking about sex, not physical abuse. Tony figured that meant that they knew what The Boyfriend was doing and approved of it, so he eventually thought that he deserved it and that The Boyfriend really was trying to help him.
Another thing I remember is that The Boyfriend told Tony that Rhodey only liked him for the War Machine suit and that he actually had to pay Pepper to spend time with him.
Anyone know what I'm talking about?