SO I've been trying find a Tony/Steve where Steve was always a women. At some point during the story they are doing a radio show and Steve verbally rips into this really misogynistic ass, and then goes online and finds all these other women that the broadcaster was slimy to as well. She then makes him apologize. Steve also starts to fall for Tony but doesn't say anything because she is waiting for him to approach her. I also remember that at some point she goes shopping (with Pepper? Don't really remember) and gets a more modern haircut.
Thanks so much!